![]() For some people, that’s undoubtedly true, yet a vast number of Thinking Introverts manage to sustain fulfilling social relationships despite a reported difficulty accepting affection from their friends. It’s tempting to view easy acceptance of affection as normal and difficulty accepting it as a problem or personality flaw. For example, about eight in 10 Architects and Logicians (INTPs) agree, versus about three in 10 Protagonists (ENFJs) and Campaigners – types that otherwise share the same traits. (The agreement rates for all other traits are about 60%.) That means that Introverted, Thinking personalities are more likely to have difficulty accepting affection from their friends, while Extraverted, Feeling types are less likely to. When it comes to accepting affection from friends, fewer traits demonstrate significant differences in response rates. Let’s narrow our focus a bit more regarding sources of affection. Let’s be honest – that could require pretty forward, gregarious behavior that’s less likely for Introverts in general. It’s also possible that they like affection equally but just aren’t prone to seeking it from everyone. They often enjoy earning favor through their intellect, skills, and accomplishments and may not feel quite as much validation from emotional overtures as other personalities do. Relatively reserved personalities like Virtuosos, Architects, and Logisticians enjoy the approval of others, but they may place equal (or higher) value on forms of appreciation other than affection, like praise and respect. Affection is just one kind of social validation, and it may appeal more to personalities who tend toward emotional openness…like Entertainers and Campaigners. ![]() (And I know that from experience as an Architect myself.) But it might reflect how different personalities value different forms of approval. Statistically speaking, Assertive Virtuosos (ISTP-As), Architects (INTJ-As), and Logisticians (ISTJ-As) are the least likely to seek affection from everyone, while Turbulent Campaigners (ENFP-Ts) and Entertainers (ESFP-Ts) are the most likely.ĭo these survey results mean that Virtuosos, Architects, and Logisticians are cold and distant, rejecting people’s fond overtures? Hardly. (The Intuitive/Observant difference is minimal here.) For the sake of illustration, we’ll discuss a few of the more extreme types. The above chart shows the traits with significant contrasts: personalities with the Introverted, Thinking, Judging, or Assertive traits are less likely to agree that they seek at least some affection from everyone. (To see the full current data, take the survey yourself and see how your results compare.) Let’s start with a broad view. So let’s look at some trends and contrasting response rates to a few questions from our ongoing “Affection” survey to see how different personalities feel about affection. We can get better at giving and getting what’s needed. Why? Because recognizing the unique ways that personality types seek and accept affection can help us get the most out of our personal relationships. Understanding our own responses as well as those of other personality types can be a valuable step in our personal growth. How we react to affection may depend on its source as well as our own needs and preferences. (Though it could also be because I’m a stranger saying it.) Different personality types have distinct behaviors, but does that include how we respond to affection? One might assume that everyone wants affection, and while that’s true on some level, the differences between personality types might be surprising. Does hearing that make you a little uncomfortable? If so, it could have something to do with your personality type.
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